These days, somewhere in the neighborhood of half of all marriages end in divorce. While this may not seem like a great thing to get excited about at first, with a second glance you might start to realize that divorce isn’t always a bad thing. We stop to think whether or not we should follow through with divorce for a number of reasons.
I’m not happy now, but will I be in the future?
Will the kids be okay if we split apart?
Will I find someone better?
What about money?
Those questions are sure to go through your mind, and that doesn’t even include the biggest whopper of all–no matter how bad it gets, it’s a really tough decision to leave something behind when you’ve placed such an enormous investment of time into it. Not to mention the vows you took in front of family and friends. But there’s so much more that should weigh into your decision than any of that.
Divorce can mean a lot of things, the biggest of which is more time for you and the other people in your life who you love the most. Less chaos means more freedom to pursue your own interests at your own pace without having to be imprisoned by the habits or needs of someone who you may no longer love.
What did you dream about before you got married? Depending on your situation, this could be the perfect time to take off and fight to make that dream a reality. Ask yourself what stopped you from accomplishing those things when you were younger, and learn to never make the same mistakes again. Find yourself some answers, and use your new freedom to attain a higher understanding of both yourself and your place in the world. Maybe even start becoming more involved in volunteer efforts or community organizations that can benefit everyone.
When you get divorced, you might start to realize that there are other kinds of people out there: single ones. People who aren’t chained down with wives or husbands or families. People who may just need another friend. And who knows? Maybe the right person for you is still out there, and reconnecting with an old friend will bring you to them. If nothing else, you could make some new friends.
Divorce can also help both partners feel more connected to everyone else around them. Sometimes the lack of freedom to see others causes us to retreat inward, but more and more these days it seems to lead to infidelity. It may be best for the both of you to make sure that doesn’t happen–and it may also be best for the rest of your friends and family as well.
At the end of the day, everyone needs to make this, the toughest of all decisions, for themselves. Is it worth it to maintain an emotionally costly marriage when one can choose divorce instead? If you’re facing these questions before you’re retired, keep in mind that you’re going to be around one another a lot more when that day comes, and you should be completely comfortable and confident that spending the rest of your days in the arms of this other person will make you content in the later years of life. If it doesn’t, then you’re better off retiring down in Tampa on your own!